My super cool pastor gave me this book to read. He told me to read the section on 'LOVE'. Here is something I liked from it:
"It was mentioned in the introduction... ...that the definition of love implies effort. When we extend ourselves, when we take an extra step or walk an extra mile, we do so in opposition to the inertia of laziness or the resistance of fear. Extention of ourselves or moving out against the inertia of laziness we call work. Moving out in the face of fear we call courage. Love, then, is a form of work, or a form or courage. Specifically, it is work or courage directed toward the nurture of our own or another's spiritual growth. We may work or exert courage in directions other than toward spiritual growth, and for this reason, all work and all courage is not love. But since it requires the extention of ourselves, love is always either work or courage. If an act is not one of work or courage then it is not an act of love. There are no exceptions." --- The Road Less Traveled, A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck, M.D.